Comfort Zone

First of all, I am happy to be back and promise myself that I shall write now each day the amazing experiences that life has to offer. I love to write and am wondering why I kept away from blogging for so many months. 
There is so much happening each day in everyone's life, but I feel I m really special as I have learnt the art of being aware and the art of observing and enjoying every moment. 

Today of course I want to share with you a very simple experience. I am aware of the fact that change is constant, we must keep trying new things, we must let go of things which we are not comfortable with, we must give ourselves new opportunities, etc. etc. however we still prefer doing the same things we always do, go to the same places we always go, eat also the same things we think are best, be with the same people we are comfortable with, use the same mode of travel, watch the same kind of movies. This is called being with the tried and tested approach.  

I am not much of a salon person, but love to keep my hair well groomed and do spend a little time and money for the same. rest everything mostly i prefer home based grooming. Now what I experienced was that since a couple of years I had shifted from the salon below to the salon a little further away, because the lady below was not confident to straighten my hair. The first time the salon which was a little distant did a fine job. However after that she spoilt it twice and I do not know why I was not moving away from her. Her methods had cost me more than I would have spent at a fancy salon and her salon was also quite unkempt. Over and above she being also a property consultant would get calls in between and it was quite disturbing as in a salon you expect some peace and tranquility. She also had all the gossip and always a story which was about some murder, suicide, or some mishap. I was really not enjoying the entire visit, and do not know why I was not moving away.

A month ago it really got on my nerves as the salon was very untidy and despite taking an appointment which I always do, she kept me waiting for 30 minutes and again did a shabby job. When I brought to her notice that she was doing a bad job, whereas she always keeps boasting about her excellent work, which is far from excellent these days, she said her hand would always pain because I was asking her to use a round brush for my hair. I told her I would not come back as I have no intention of causing any pain to her.

The next two weeks I tried doing the hair on my own at home, but was not really successful. Till two weeks ago I went back to the salon right below my house. I noticed that the place was clean, well equipped now and she said she had missed me. I told her I would definitely come in a couple of days. True to my words I went back to her and she did such a wonderful job with my hair and when I asked her how much do I pay, she told me an amount which shocked me as it was so much lower than the value of the work she had done. I left her with a very generous tip and complimented her for her work and promised that I would be back for more. 

The reason I felt like sharing this is that when we move towards a change, we always get something better and more delightful. So go ahead in life and take a look at the areas which are stagnating, which have become mundane, which are not giving you happiness. Make a change, try something new, take small risks and I am sure you shall be surprised with the results. Of course even if this is happening in relationships, then I recommend, work on them, work on yourself. Bring back the life and the love ini it. I shall be writing a lot more on relationships soon. 

With magical love

Salma

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