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Talented Women and Mangla Gauri

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  Talented Women and Mangla Gauri It is a blessing when one gets to learn about the culture of the state and the rich tradition day after days . We are very fortunate to have the capacity to keep learning and the opportunity to keep experiencing each day so many festivities which is a part of our rich tradition. Tuesday 29th August was one such day where I was present for the mangla Gauri Puja of my daughter in law. Her parents and immediate family had been preparing to make this day successful as this Puja is about praying for the togetherness, happiness, health wealth and prosperity of the newly wed couple. We were so looking forward to this day and I had also once again got the traditional attire of navvari stitched. Had got mehendi application done which I so love and bought fragrant flowers for the hair. Along with me my clinical psychology intern from Germany was also excited and took to the maharashtrian Traditional attire like a fish to water. Finally the day arrived and we rea
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Neighbour

 Love Thy Neighbor as you Love Yourself Over the last two decades I had missed the pleasure of having a neighbor.  I was living with fond memories of childhood when we had a small house but generous, caring and kind neighbors. My mother would leave us three children very comfortably with the neighbors watching us. She would go for shopping, functions, doctor visits and she had nothing to worry about. Every day we exchanged food and every evening we would chat together as the distance between the two houses or the next door house was hardly 5 feet.  I only have good and happy memories as I have eaten maximum Cadbury chocolates during this period. Our neighbor on the left were just a father and son and both went to work at different timing. This was in my favor as both bought me a chocolate. The neighbors opposite were like an extended family. We would play endless games of carom board together and had many amazing kulfi evenings.  We went for movies together, we prayed together and the
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Teenagers and Lockdown

TEENAGERS AND LOCKDOWN When my earlier posts reached across, many parents wrote to me asking for some guidelines to handle teenagers especially when the lockdown got extended. The very two words do not go together that is teenage and lockdown in other words curfew. The word curfew for a teenager is associated with punishment and their brain would take a while to accept that this is for containment and not punishment. No doubt it is a challenge for the parents to first deal with their own schedules and the great challenges emerged out of this lockdown and this can have a double whammy  if there is or are teenagers who are experiencing frustration as well. It is a well known and researched conclusion that our frustrations come out on our lives ones and in the cas of the teenagers it is their parents. Instead of getting worked up and falling into the arguing and fighting mode, let us get into the solution and harmony mode. As parents, you first need to accept what they are g
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Family needs listening skills and less of advice.

FAMILY NEEDS LISTENING SKILLS AND LESS ADVICE Since the first lock down we have completed a week now and everyone is doing great as of now. Well almost everyone. We have a day to look forward to and everyone is dreaming about resuming to their normal lives. Like resuming work, resuming shopping, walks, gyms etc. At the same time there is an apprehension that God knows how much time it will take. All the above leads to a lot of anxiety and worry and during this time it is quite possible that tempers flare, misunderstandings happen, harsh words are spoken then regretted. In this scenario, What is required is more of listening and less of advising. In the next week or after that the joy of being together at home and doing things together may start to wear off. While some family members may feel that it is good to have everyone home, some may feel that their sanctity has been disturbed. Children who are happy to see their parents home may start feeling the brunt of too many advice
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THANK YOU CORONA

Thank you Corona  Is Corona here to DESTROY or SAVE the human race. While the world is asking Corona to go. I have a little different take on the entire situation. Please do not misunderstand. I am not asking Corona to stay. But I am seeing the effect it has had on the entire human race. The birds in my surroundings are singing as usual. The dogs are guarding the streets as usual, except for the little confusion they experienced for five minutes, the squirrels are running to and fro, up and down the trees as usual, only the human is changing and I pray that the change keeps on getting better and better. Yes the trees are looking very happy as they are breathing clean air.  This piece of writing was inspired by the way the country responded to the humble request of the prime minister and the way the world watched us all making a difference.  We all know that for more than five decades the earth has been giving warnings in forms of Tsunami, different viruses, storms, fi
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NEXT 15 DAYS

NEXT 15 DAYS AND BEYOND While there is a huge inflow of precautionary measures and advises coming your way to face the covid 19, I would recommend how to keep your mind calm and positive and also spend the time with your family as a whole in the next 15 days and beyond. In situations like the present one, it is best to sit and think how this can be converted into an opportunity to make up for all the lost time, or all the things you have been wanting to do when you get more time at home. Now that you shall be working from home and children are also going to be there as schools and colleges are going to be closed and going to malls and outdoor is not an option, it will be very good to do things together rather than spend time on whatsapp and with gadgets. Here is a list of things you can do together as a family and in the house and keep yourself occupied and also strengthen your mind and your immune system. 1     After learning about all the precautionary measures
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PUBG - Concern of many Parents.

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PUBG - Concern of many Parents.  Recently almost everyday, I have one parent or more contacting me for consultation regarding the struggles they are facing with their child who is addicted to playing pubg. All the cases are of boys. Girls also play, however I have not been approached by any parents.  According to one times of India article, almost 400 million people around the world play Player Unknown's Battle Grounds (PUBG). In each game, up to one hundred players parachute onto an island and then look for weapons to kill the others without getting killed themselves. The last player or the last team standing wins the game. Now we all know that game addiction is not a new phenomenon. However committing suicide, blackmailing parents, manipulating situations, bunking school to stay at home and play the game, telling lies to enter a competition, developing tennis elbow, Obesity, aggressively reacting neglecting hygiene, avoiding socia
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